The Third Person

The third person



When there was no institution of marriage, there was no limit of men and it is on record that the women were having so many men and similarly the men were having so many women on their list and with whom they were having relations. But our forefathers realized that all that was not good and therefore, they established the institution of this marriage and since then it has been desired that a man should have one wife living and the woman should have one husband living and they should maintain this status till they are alive. There was no concept of divorce or desertion and the same principle is still expected from the couple.

Marriage amongst Indians had been accepted as a sacrament and therefore, they prescribed rites from the religious books. Even today they are following those religious ceremonies at the time of their marriage and take oath that they shall follow the same principles which have been laid down in religious books and they shall not go astray.

They may be two in bodies, but they should be one from heart and they should run the house as one. They must be sincere to each other. They must be faithful to each other and they should not allow a third person. The wife must be in her heart only her husband and the husband should not go astray. The men had been going astray because they had been having keeps, dancing girls, singing girls, prostitutes, they had been committing rape and at times they were found committing adultery. But all these institutions had not been recognized by the society. The men who had been indulging in such activities had been branded as people who were committing crimes, sins and misconduct and such people had not been honoured in the society.

Otherwise too, we have accepted that once married, there should not be a third person in life of the man and the woman. They should become one and they should be sincere to each other. If they go astray, they shall not live a happy life. The man does not like that there should be another man who is having close relations with his wife and similarly the woman shall not like that her man has got close relations with another woman and he is visiting her time and again. Once there is a third person, the married life is ruined and if they are maintaining this married life, it is just a compulsion and in most of the cases the marriages are broken by way of divorce or by way of desertion.

Even in India the women had been tolerating all activities of their men because they were dependant upon them and they had got no source of their own income. But now most of the women are standing at their own feet and since then they are not tolerating that their men should be visiting a dancing girls, a singing girl, or having a keep or visiting a prostitute. They have started having a complete watch on their husbands and if we read the petitions for divorce filed from the sides of women, we find that most of the women are complaining that their husband has got no character and he is having relations with other women and therefore, they are not in a position to stay in that house which is maintained by their husbands. They start living separately and they also start demanding maintenance from their husbands so that they could be harassed in such a manner that they should leave the company of the third person.

Before the establishment of this marriage institution, the men and the women had been going astray, but since the institution of this marriage system, the presence of the third person is not tolerated and therefore, it is the duty of each party not to introduce this third person in married life, because this is the best institution which our forefathers established and we should honour and accept this institution as a sacred unit and there should no extra entry in this house.

The men and the women may be having relations which they had been enjoying prior to marriage, but they could not join with them because of their religion, caste, economic status,. education status, training status, social status or the like, but once they are married, they should start accepting this new challenge and must take the other life partner with him or her and go ahead meeting all the challenges of life. They are to bring children, they are to give education, training and adjustment at work to these children and they are to get them married and establish their houses. When the couple has got so many responsibilities, in fact they have got no time for maintaining extra marriage bonds. These extra married bonds are very difficult to be maintained because these matters are costly and the men and the women shall not be able to spare time for these activities. And when the other party shall be having eye on him or her, it shall become more difficult to have relations with the third person.

All wise people have accepted these norms and even the state has accepted these norms and all these relations with the third person have been declared as crimes. Similarly our religions are not allowing the entry of these third person in the house and even our society shall not tolerate all these activities. When there are so many prohibitions, both the parties must try to live in the house as husband and wife and they should forget all their relations which they had been having prior to marriage. That story is over and they have entered as partners in a new story which is more important and in fact everyone wants to maintain this family life because this is the highest achievement of this man. They have understood that relations with the third person shall not be giving enjoyment, but shall be creating so many burdens on the mind of the person much time shall be wasted in concealing those relations. Married life is for enjoyment and this enjoyment could be complete only when there is no third person breaking this family bond.

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